Relationship Alchemy
You still love each other.
But along the way,
you stopped feeling it.
We can help you!
We guide couples back to that feeling — not through therapy or worksheets, but through sacred ceremony, guidance and experiences that open the heart in ways words alone never can.
★★★★★
"Best thing we ever did for our marriage — and we've tried everything"
— Steve & Jenny, together over 20 years
Welcome. You're in the right place.
We made two gifts for you - You are invited to dive into one or both.
If something stirred in you
The Closeness Quiz
Your relationship is good or maybe not so good. You know more is possible. A few minutes, 7 questions, and you'll have language for something you've probably felt but haven't quite named.
If you want something to try tonight
The 10 Minute Date
A simple app. Tell it what kind of connection you're craving with your partner and it builds you a personalized 10 minute date on the spot. Playful. Personal. Takes ten minutes.
Ready to talk now? Tell us what is on your mind, and we will get back to you. We listen more than we talk.
You recognize yourself
in one of these
Most couples who come to us aren't in crisis. They're in something quieter and, in some ways, harder — a slow drift away from the love they know is still there. If any of these feel like you, keep reading.
01
You've become loving roommates
You manage life well together. But the spark — the desire, the intimacy, the aliveness — has quietly slipped away. You miss each other even while living in the same house.
02
You can't access the love in your body
You know you love your partner. But you can't feel it the way you once did. There's a wall you can't name and can't seem to get through, no matter how much you talk about it.
03
There's a quiet, background doubt
You're not planning to leave. But the question surfaces: is this all there is? You long for something deeper and more alive — and you're not sure your relationship can hold it.
04
Therapy helped, but not enough
You've done the work. You understand your patterns and your wounds. But understanding hasn't created the transformation you're longing for. You need something that reaches deeper than words.
“It’s like being in a different relationship,
living in a different reality —
in the most welcome and beautiful way.”
Kathryn W. · After the Relationship Alchemy Retreat
- THE RELATIONSHIP ALCHEMY METHOD -
Three pillars.
One complete transformation.
Most couples coaching gives you tools and talks. We give you a direct experience of the love that's already there - and then we build the structures that make it last.
PILLAR ONE
The Relationship
Alchemy Immersion
Like a sacred immersion in water - you enter this ceremony as one version of yourselves and emerge genuinely different. A private Heart Ceremony guided by Michael and Penny, that dissolves the walls between you and brings you back into felt connection with each other. Not as a concept. As an experience in your body.
This is the breakthrough that makes everything else possible. The moment the weight of years - the habits, the quiet distance, the unspoken things - just dissolves.
Available as a standalone private ceremony, or woven as the ceremonial heart of the Costa Rica retreat.
PILLAR TWO
The Relationship
Alchemy Journey
After the Immersion opens the heart, the Journey is the path you walk together. A three-month private program - just you, your partner, and Michael and Penny - where you co-create your Story of Us: the living myth of your relationship, with shared values, themes, and a vision you actually inhabit every day.
Monthly private Zoom sessions, ongoing Voxer access, and the full Moments of Connection practice library. The Journey doesn't end at three months - couples continue for as long as the path calls them forward.
Includes the Immersion ceremony. Completely private - just the four of us.
PILLAR THREE
Moments of
Connection
A breakthrough fades without practice. The third pillar is a rich, growing toolkit of daily and weekly connection rituals - small, powerful moments that become the living fabric of your Story of Us. The 10-Minute Date. The 20-second hug that resets the nervous system. Slow rituals of adoration. Eye-gazing practices. And many more.
Included in the Journey program and the Retreat. Available separately as a standalone subscription.
A full week immersed in love,
in the forests of Costa Rica.
The retreat is a guaranteed deep dive of complete immersion in our signature process, transforming your romantic relationship from the ground up.
DATES
February 7 – 13, 2027
LOCATION
Verdesana by Imiloa, Costa Rica
ELEVATION
5,000 ft · Fairytale Forest
AVAILABILITY
Limited · Couples only
FEBRUARY 7–13, 2027
VERDESANA · COSTA RICA
The Relationship Alchemy Retreat
Seven days · Sacred forest · Luxury hand-crafted cabins
Multiple Sacred Heart Ceremonies
Art of Adoration Puja - the full giving and receiving ritual
Deep guided creation of your Story of Us
Moments of Connection practices
Four Elements tantric breathwork and sensual touch
Cacao Ceremony & Sacred Vows renewal
Daily movement, meditation and integration time
All gourmet plant-based meals - "conscious comfort food"
Luxury private cabin accommodation for the full week
Luxury ground transport from San José airport
Intimate circle of fellow couples
Early Registration (first 4 couples)
$9,995
Standard (from August 2026)
$12,995
Price is per couple · All meals and accommodation included
Payment plans available
El Templo — your ceremonial home
Our ceremonies take place in El Templo, Verdesana's dedicated sacred space — a yoga shala surrounded by ancient forest, with the sounds of a river flowing nearby and no wi-fi. A genuinely sacred container.
Luxury hand-crafted cabins
Each couple stays in their own private cabin, hand-built from regenerated cypress forest on the property. Private decks, forest and mountain views, 850 thread count sheets. The VIP cabin has a fireplace and soaking tub.
What if it all changes in seven days?
A weekend is powerful. A week is transformational. The immersion allows for a rare, uninterrupted depth that cuts past the daily mind, letting you rewire your partnership from the nervous system up. Seven days creates a new permanent baseline.
Already done so much inner work?
Our deepest work is rarely accessed alone. This retreat is for couples who have explored therapies, plant medicines, or deep spiritual practice but still find themselves triggering each other in the exact same loops. We bypass the stories to heal the root of the entanglement.
— MICHAEL & PENNY
We healed our own relationship first.
Then we learned how to guide others.
After twenty years together, during COVID, we found ourselves fighting too much and feeling too far apart. We did the work — both individually and as a couple. What we discovered surprised us: not only did we get back to where we were, we reclaimed the original excitement and aliveness of falling in love. And then it kept getting better.
We got married. We became business partners. We became co-authors of our own Story of Us. And we started guiding other couples through the same journey — because we know, from the inside, what's possible.
- Michael is an ordained rabbi, ceremonialist, and transformational guide with decades of pastoral experience working with couples and families
- Penny is a licensed clinical psychologist specializing in trauma, attachment, and relational healing
- Together we lead sacred ceremonies, couples retreats, and medicine journeys — guided by the methodology that transformed our own marriage
SOME COUPLES' STORIES
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I would describe the transformation as a complete 180 degree shift. It's like being in a different relationship, living in a different reality. It really does feel like a true miracle. 100, 200 times return on investment. The most worthwhile investment we have ever made in our lives.
KATHRYN W.
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Other retreats we did together. This retreat we did for each other. We kissed like we hadn't kissed in so long. When we left, we looked at each other and said: this is the best thing we have ever done for our marriage.
STEVE & JENNY
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I would pay a million dollars to have that experience again with Melissa. The best money we have ever spent on our relationship. Anything we've tried — therapy, coaching, everything — it paled in comparison. We connected more deeply that weekend than we ever have.
MIKE