Relationship Alchemy
You still love each other.
But somewhere along the way,
you stopped feeling it.
We guide couples back to that feeling — not through therapy or worksheets, but through sacred ceremony and experiences that open the heart in ways words alone never can.
"Best thing we ever did for our marriage — and we've tried everything"
— Steve & Jenny, together over 20 years
This is for you if...
You recognize yourself
in one of these
Most couples who come to us aren't in crisis. They're in something quieter and, in some ways, harder — a slow drift away from the love they know is still there. If any of these feel like you, keep reading.
You've become loving roommates
You manage life well together. But the spark — the desire, the intimacy, the aliveness — has quietly slipped away. You miss each other even while living in the same house.
You can't access the love in your body
You know you love your partner. But you can't feel it the way you once did. There's a wall you can't name and can't seem to get through, no matter how much you talk about it.
There's a quiet, background doubt
You're not planning to leave. But the question surfaces: is this all there is? You long for something deeper and more alive — and you're not sure your relationship can hold it.
Therapy helped, but not enough
You've done the work. You understand your patterns and your wounds. But understanding hasn't created the transformation you're longing for. You need something that reaches deeper than words.
“It’s like being in a different relationship,
living in a different reality —
in the most welcome and beautiful way.”
Kathryn W. · After the Relationship Alchemy Retreat
The Relationship Alchemy Method
Three pillars.
One complete transformation.
Most couples coaching gives you tools and talks. We give you a direct experience of the love that's already there — and then we build the structures that make it last.
Pillar One
The Relationship
Alchemy Immersion
Like a mikveh — a sacred immersion in water — you enter this ceremony as one version of yourselves and emerge genuinely different. A private Heart Ceremony using plant medicine, guided by Michael and Penny, that dissolves the walls between you and brings you back into felt connection with each other. Not as a concept. As an experience in your body.
This is the breakthrough that makes everything else possible. The moment the weight of years — the habits, the quiet distance, the unspoken things — just dissolves.
Available as a standalone private ceremony, or woven as the ceremonial heart of the Costa Rica retreat.
Pillar Two
The Relationship
Alchemy Journey
After the Immersion opens the heart, the Journey is the path you walk together. A three-month private program — just you, your partner, and Michael and Penny — where you co-create your Story of Us: the living myth of your relationship, with shared values, themes, and a vision you actually inhabit every day.
Monthly private Zoom sessions, ongoing Voxer access, and the full Moments of Connection practice library. The Journey doesn't end at three months — couples continue for as long as the path calls them forward.
Includes the Immersion ceremony. Completely private — just the four of you.
Pillar Three
Moments of
Connection
A breakthrough fades without practice. The third pillar is a rich, growing toolkit of daily and weekly connection rituals — small, powerful moments that become the living fabric of your Story of Us. The 10-Minute Date. The 20-second hug that resets the nervous system. Slow rituals of adoration. Eye-gazing practices. And many more.
The couples who sustain their transformation aren't doing anything heroic. They're doing small things, consistently, with intention. The Practices are how the retreat becomes a life.
Included in the Journey program and the Retreat. Available separately as a standalone subscription.
Michael & Penny
We healed our own relationship first.
Then we learned how to guide others.
After twenty years together, we found ourselves fighting too much and feeling too far apart. We did the work — both individually and as a couple. What we discovered surprised us: not only did we get back to where we were, we reclaimed the original excitement and aliveness of falling in love. And then it kept getting better.
We got married. We became business partners. We became co-authors of our own Story of Us. And we started guiding other couples through the same journey — because we know, from the inside, what's possible.
Michael is an ordained rabbi, ceremonialist, and transformational guide with decades of pastoral experience working with couples and families
Penny is a licensed clinical psychologist specializing in trauma, attachment, and relational healing
Together we lead sacred ceremonies, couples retreats, and medicine journeys — guided by the methodology that transformed our own marriage
What couples are saying
Their words, not ours
I would describe the transformation as a complete 180 degree shift. It's like being in a different relationship, living in a different reality. It really does feel like a true miracle. 100, 200 times return on investment. The most worthwhile investment we have ever made in our lives.
Kathryn W. Watch her full story →Other retreats we did together. This retreat we did for each other. We kissed like we hadn't kissed in so long. When we left, we looked at each other and said: this is the best thing we have ever done for our marriage.
Steve & Jenny Watch their full story →I would pay a million dollars to have that experience again with Melissa. The best money we have ever spent on our relationship. Anything we've tried — therapy, coaching, everything — it paled in comparison. We connected more deeply that weekend than we ever have.
Mike Watch their full story →Ways to Work With Us
Every path begins
with a conversation.
We work with a small number of couples at a time. Book a free 45-minute consultation and we'll find the right path together.
The Immersion
Relationship Alchemy
Immersion
Private sacred ceremony for one couple
A private Heart Ceremony with plant medicine, guided by Michael and Penny. At our home or yours. You enter as one version of yourselves and emerge genuinely different. The Immersion is the beginning of everything — and complete in itself.
Per couple · Standalone or as part of the Journey
Book a Consultation →Most Complete · The Journey
Relationship Alchemy
Journey
Three-month private program — Immersion included
The full transformation arc: your private Immersion ceremony, followed by three months of Story of Us work, Moments of Connection practices, monthly private Zoom sessions, and ongoing Voxer access to Michael and Penny. Completely private. Completely bespoke. Renewable beyond three months for couples who want to continue the path.
Per couple · Immersion ceremony included · Payment plans available
Book a Consultation →The Retreat · Costa Rica 2027
Relationship Alchemy
Retreat
One week at Verdesana by Imiloa, Costa Rica
The luxury extended version of everything. A full week in the ancient forests of Costa Rica — multiple Immersion ceremonies, deep Story of Us work, Moments of Connection practice, gourmet plant-based cuisine, and a circle of extraordinary couples. An experience your marriage will carry forever.
Per couple · Feb 7–13 2027 · Limited spots
Apply for a Spot →The Retreat · February 2027
A full week immersed in love,
in the forests of Costa Rica.
This is not a long weekend. It is seven days of complete immersion — in sacred practice, in each other, and in one of the most breathtaking settings on earth.
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The Relationship
Alchemy Retreat
Seven days · Sacred forest · Luxury hand-crafted cabins
- Multiple Sacred Heart Ceremonies with plant medicine
- Art of Adoration Puja — the full giving and receiving ritual
- Deep guided creation of your Story of Us
- Moments of Connection practices and full library access
- Four Elements tantric breathwork and sensual touch
- Cacao Ceremony & Sacred Vows renewal to close
- Daily movement, meditation and integration time
- All gourmet plant-based meals — "conscious comfort food"
- Luxury private cabin accommodation for the full week
- Luxury ground transport from San José airport
- Intimate circle of fellow couples — maximum group size
Per couple · All meals and accommodation included · Payment plans available
Apply for a Spot →El Templo — your ceremonial home
Our ceremonies take place in El Templo, Verdesana's dedicated sacred space — a yoga shala surrounded by ancient forest, with the sounds of a river flowing nearby and no wi-fi. A genuinely sacred container.
Luxury hand-crafted cabins
Each couple stays in their own private cabin, hand-built from regenerated cypress forest on the property. Private decks, forest and mountain views, 850 thread count sheets. The VIP cabin has a fireplace and soaking tub.
Why a full week changes everything
A weekend is powerful. A week is transformational. The extra days allow the medicine to settle, the breakthroughs to integrate, and the new version of your relationship to take root — not just as a memory, but as the couple you become.
Already done a private Immersion?
You already know what this medicine can open. Imagine a full week of it — multiple ceremonies, a full Story of Us arc, Moments of Connection woven through every day, and a circle of extraordinary couples around you. The retreat is the luxury extended version of everything you experienced privately.
Not sure which path is right for you?
Let's find out together.
A free 45-minute Relationship Consultation with Michael or Penny. No pitch. No pressure. Just an honest conversation about where your relationship is — and whether we can help.
"Any money that you spend on your relationship gets compounded — because you live inside of your relationship, all the time. To sweeten the home you're in, inside your relationship, is the best investment you can make."
Mark & Gena · Retreat participants
[email protected] · Michael: (410) 652-8215 · Penny: (617) 650-1340